Making friends is hard to do...
Scott and I moved from the suburbs of Chicago, IL to St. Petersburg, FL about two years ago.
One unexpected challenge of a cross-country move? Making new friends!!
We still absolutely love our friends from ‘back home’, and try to stay in touch often. But it’s also important for us to fully embrace this new chapter of our lives and make new friends, both individually and as a couple.
One thing I’ve noticed, is it can be challenging to make those true, ‘deep’, beyond surface level, genuinely connected friendships. To be perfectly honest, I feel like this is something I’ve struggled with for various reasons throughout my life (that’s a whole other blog post😉) but it can be particularly challenging to meet people you connect with in your early 30’s in a whole new area!
As much as Scott and I rely on each other for entertainment, activities, and of course those feelings of love and happiness, I think it’s important to have really good, supportive, friends to share life with.
To be honest, this isn’t a post to ‘teach’ you anything so much as to bring awareness to a very real challenge couples can face (making strong friendships) and it’s important to address with your S.O.
I plan to blog about this more in the future with how growing new friendships is playing out in our personal lives, and also more thoughts on the ‘who/what/where/when/how’ on creating those bonds that hopefully last a lifetime!
Have you ever moved away from everyone familiar and started a new chapter with your S.O.?
Did you find it challenging to make new friends?
We’d love to hear from you! Comment below!
When you are with someone for a number of years, monotony and the "business" side of living life (cleaning up the house, paying bills, coordinating schedules, etc.) can make married or "committed" life seem....well....less than fun. It definitely feels different than those exciting days of dating, going out all the time, and less combined responsibilities! So what can you do to shake things up a bit?
The other day Scott & I realized a simple way to find more joy in your relationship on a more regular basis, that doesn't cost more money or additional time -- make a small tweak to a familiar event!
For example, for years now (on & off) Scott and I have worked out together in the mornings. We have been having trouble getting motivated to get back into it, so I suggested we ride our bikes down to the bay for the sunrise and get our workouts done outside (a different/new environment) which has also encouraged us to switch up our workouts (a different/new activity.)
It was fun! We connected over catching a beautiful sunrise and watching some dolphins track down their breakfast, had time to chat on the bike ride there and back, and were proud of each other for pushing harder than usual on our workouts in the heat & humidity!
Our point here is you don’t have to go on some lavish vacation or spend a boat load of cash to pour some excitement back into your relationship.
You can change something small like your workout location, where you eat dinner (make it a picnic!), where you pay bills (go to a coffee shop and sip java ️& people watch while you crunch the numbers!), shop at a new grocery store, and so many more things!
So comment below, what ‘everyday’ thing (working out, a chore, task, etc.) are you going to tweak a bit to make it more enjoyable and what are you going to do?