Have you ever:
-fallen off the wagon?
-strayed from the path?
-lost all motivation to go for your goals?
If you are currently experiencing this, or have in the past, then you need to know,
You are NOT alone!
All of us, and I really do mean all of us, have felt this way at some point. Maybe you are going through a big life transition, maybe you have a lot on your plate right now and it's hard to find balance, maybe you are just plain tired.
Here's what I want you to realize: #1- you need to be kind to yourself. You are HUMAN. You are not a machine. Sometimes you need to take time to slow down and regroup. #2- if you are even still *thinking* about these goals you want to reach (to lose weight, make more money, see more friends, start that business, etc.) than you have NOT GIVEN UP.
I know that might sound strange, and possibly even trite, but it's true. If you are even still entertaining the idea of going after a specific goal, you clearly have not given up. If you had truly given up, you wouldn't even consider going for it. Right? You would have written it off and put it out of your mind.
But- if you still feel that longing inside, if you still try to think of ways to motivate yourself to get on track, if you even consider finding an accountability partner or search for inspiration on Instagram or Facebook, you are still in the game!
I don't want you to stay in the "thinking" state for long...it is very easy to get stuck there! But sometimes it's ok to meditate on and plan for what you want to happen. Allow yourself to get excited about achieving your goals. Remember why you were even thinking about them in the first place. Sometimes taking the pressure off of getting back in the game for a bit and just getting excited and focused on your vision can be all you need to "get back on the wagon." It also helps to tell someone who cares about you, understands you, and is "in your corner" about your goals and your vision; it is likely they will help fuel your fire and get you even more excited about going for it!
You can't bully yourself into making positive change. BE KIND to yourself. If you are allowing your goals to occupy your thoughts at all, you haven't given up. You can choose to take small daily steps. I believe in you, you should too!
Soooo...how do you feel hungover without consuming an excess of booze?
I refer to it as an "emotional hangover”...it’s the kind of hangover you get when you walk into a situation or relationship with a list of expectations that are not met.
There is a quote that says:
“A secret to happiness is letting every situation be what it is, instead of what you think it should be.”
This idea of what “should be” can REALLY trip us up, especially around the holidays!!
We walk into our family gatherings with a laundry list of expectations as to how things “should be.” We may not be doing it intentionally, but we feel we “should” get along with our parents and siblings...we “should” be playing board games and laughing non-stop...we “should” feel completely loved, comforted, and supported by those closest to us.
So why do we have this long list of “shoulds”?
There are many reasons, but it can be thoughts put into our heads by movies and TV, past experiences, friends’ experiences, and especially these days, social media.
I mean, it’s referred to as “Fakebook” for a reason, right? Not because everyone on there is “fake”, but because social media is where we (meaning almost all of us) tend to put our “best foot forward”. We post only our best selfies, our awesome nights out with friends, the delicious meal we ate last night, the bitchin’ beach vacation we just went on...you get the point, right? Rarely do we post about disappointments, heartbreak, or lonely nights in.
When it comes to holidays, this idea gets multiplied X 10. We see gorgeous pictures of our friends having the time of their lives with those closest to them (or so it seems) and if our holiday doesn’t “match up”...we feel less than. We feel sad, confused, and maybe even depressed. Sometimes we think to ourselves…”Why aren’t the holidays like that for me? That’s how it should be.”
Here’s the bottom line...of course you can do your best to make your celebration as happy as possible for you and those around you,, I actually encourage you to do so! But you will never feel satisfied unless you stop focusing on what “should be”, and start accepting people and situations for who and what they are.
When we focus on what is, instead of what we expect, we feel more at peace, more patient, and more clear rather than disappointed.
When we accept people for who they are, and realize there is no way that things “should” be, we can remember that no one’s family, no one’s holiday, is perfect.
So if you feel your holidays leave a little something to be desired know these things:
● You are not alone (there are many people who feel the same way)
● It’s ok to get off social media for a bit (you are not obligated to wish your entire FB & IG friends list a “Happy Holiday”)
● When you accept what is, you empower yourself to choose happiness and peace rather than falling victim to your expectations
I hope you have Happy Holidays, and I know that you will, because your happiness starts with a choice….it starts with YOU.
Talk about breaking free from fear!!!
My interview with Sara Helland, owner of Chrysalis Body & Soul, was insightful, inspiring, and I'm certain motivated everyone listening to start taking action on their goals!
Sara, originally from Wisconsin, went through a painful divorce which inspired her to rediscover herself, move hundreds of miles across the ocean to Hawaii, and start a business where she helps people break free from the pain holding them back and step into their happy, peaceful, and passionate selves!
To say she is a mover and a shaker is an understatement, but she approaches everything with incredible poise and calm.
This interview is truly a must watch!! You can find it on the home page of my website, my YouTube Channel at https://youtu.be/1EBHOXV_6Pw
or on Sara’s website chrysalisbodyandsoul.com!
HUGE THANK YOU to Sara for spending time with me and all the viewers who caught the interview!
Here is some info about how to get in touch with Sara for information on her massage, Reiki services, and yoga classes! You can also reach out to Sara about hosting a yoga workshop for your group, company, or organization, and even become a part of her next yoga tour!
Sara’s Phone: 808-269-7870
Facebook page: Chrysalis Body & Soul
Local (Hawaii based) yoga classes are at Montage Kapalua Bay Monday and Friday mornings.
8am Power yoga
9:15 Gentle flow
9:15 power yoga
10:30 gentle flow
Out call massage and reiki sessions available, more info on website!