Slowing down when life is speeding up...

I know everyone says this pretty much all the time lately…

But life has been CRAZY!




​Between several out of town work trips for me over the last 2 months…
looking for a place to move…
creating our first online course for our awesome “committed” community 😊…
traveling out of town to see family…
having friends come into town to see us…
working over time at our FT jobs…
We’ve been a bit stressed!

But the funny thing is, rather than throw ourselves into a completely anxious tizzy (like I have done many times in the past!) we’ve actually taken some moments to completely sloooooowwww dooooowwwwwn a bit. 

Even in times where we definitely could’ve (should’ve?) been doing something productive. 

How and what do I mean, you might be wondering!?

Well pretty early on when things started ramping up FAST, we realized we were feeling discombobulated, stressed, and a little disconnected from each other, which given the situation was perfectly natural and made sense! But we also realized just as immediately that we did not want to feel that way. So we did something about it.

• We started trying to get into bed juuuuust a little sooner to simply lie there chat with each other
• We started cuddling on the couch together in the morning...yes this is post workout (after we’ve cooled down though!) when we are still a bit sweaty and gross! 😜and we just lie together and close our eyes with some calming meditation music playing in the background

• Many days, even when someone is rushing a little to get out the door, we will share a looooong hug (at least 20-30 seconds...which is long for a hug!) and just breathe for a few moments

I know some of this (especially the long hugging thing 😉) sound pretty mushy-gushy...and to be honest...they are!

But the message we communicate to each other with these little moments of togetherness is this:
We put each other first. 

We try to remind ourselves daily, and to remind the other person, that (outside of self care - which IMO has to come first) we are each other’s TOP priority. Work is not first. Travel is not first. Business is not first. Projects are not first. 

We as a couple realize and try to keep top of mind that our time together is limited due to “life” stuff and obligations…
...and also limited as in we only get so much time to spend together on this life journey. 

One day, hopefully not too soon, the hour glass will run out. And before that time comes I want to know that I spent significant amounts of time experiencing love. 

Believe me, there are times where the most tremendously worthwhile thing you can do at that moment is to pour love into your partner and be loved in return.

Nothing else. No end goal. No to do list. No tending to others’ needs.

Those moments of connection, sometimes filled with conversation and sometimes silent, have kept us focused on what is truly important when the world around us seems to be spinning too fast. It has helped keep us grounded. It has helped keep us connected. 

So I encourage you, even if things have felt “crazy” lately and it’s hard to imagine slowing down for even a second...take the time to just BE with your spouse. Find the time. Create the time. 

Because when you cut out all the outside “stuff”, is there anything more important in this life than wholeheartedly being present with the ones you love?

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